Understanding Commitment Issues: He Wants You, But Not Ready
The Situation
"He said he's not ready but doesn't want me to date others"
The Brutal Truth
He’s keeping you on the hook while he figures himself out, unwilling to commit but also unwilling to let you go. This is selfish and displays emotional unavailability. You deserve someone who is ready and willing to invest in you fully.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling to this situation, trying to prove themselves worthy and waiting indefinitely for him to sort his feelings out. This is toxic behavior that puts your self-worth on the line.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only invest in someone who is fully ready to commit?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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