When Your Partner Compares Your Career to Their Ex's: What It Means
The Situation
"She compares my career to her ex's"
The Brutal Truth
She’s using you as a benchmark against her past, revealing insecurities and unresolved feelings. This comparison indicates emotional unavailability and a lack of respect for your unique value.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may overanalyze her comments, seeking constant validation to prove her wrong. This is draining and does not address the underlying issue of her comparison.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What do I believe about my worth when someone compares me to their past?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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