Why Constantly Talking About an Ex is a Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"She talks about her ex constantly on dates"
The Brutal Truth
If she’s bringing up her ex on dates, it shows she’s not over her past relationship. This means she might be emotionally unavailable or using you as a rebound instead of genuinely pursuing a new connection.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to prove their worth by overly accommodating her feelings, hoping it will make her choose them over her ex. This is self-sabotage! You deserve someone who is fully present for you, not someone distracted by old flames.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of this situation makes you feel like you have to compete with her past?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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