Dating Dilemma: Criticism Over Income and Work Hours
The Situation
"She wants me to make more money but criticizes my work hours"
The Brutal Truth
He feels pressured to earn more but is criticized for his effort. This highlights her inability to understand the complexities of balancing work and relationship needs, turning his professional struggles into personal attacks instead of support.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might work longer hours or pressure themselves to change jobs to please her, believing that financial success will fix the relationship and avoid criticism. This is misguided because it ignores their own needs and fosters resentment.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does my ideal partner’s support look like, and how can I communicate this clearly?
✨ What To Do Next
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