Daily Venting About Ex-Husbands: A Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"She vents about her ex-husband daily and calls it bonding"
The Brutal Truth
She's using her ex-husband's drama as a crutch for intimacy, which means she hasn't fully processed her past. This is emotional baggage that can suffocate a new relationship, making it impossible to build genuine connection and trust.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might tolerate this behavior, thinking they must be supportive and patient to earn her love. This is wrong because it ignores their own boundaries and needs, allowing for unhealthy dynamics to continue.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it reveal about your self-worth when you find comfort in someone else's unresolved issues?
✨ What To Do Next
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