Why Dating a Man Who Compares You to His Ex is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He compares me to his ex-wife who's a decade older"
The Brutal Truth
He’s signaling that he’s emotionally stuck on his ex and unable to appreciate you for who you are. This behavior is a clear indicator of insecurity and inability to commit fully, leaving you feeling undervalued.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to prove their worth, altering themselves to fit his expectations. This is unwise because it shifts focus away from what you deserve and promotes unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes you need to compete with someone from his past to feel valued?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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