What to Do When Your Partner Isn't Ready for Kids
The Situation
"She said she wants kids soon but I'm not ready"
The Brutal Truth
He’s using her desire for kids as an excuse to avoid commitment. This shows a lack of awareness or respect for her needs and preferences. He likely wants to keep her around without progressing the relationship, holding onto her while he remains indecisive.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might panic and try to convince him to change his mind or push for a timeline he’s not ready for. This is unhealthy because it ignores her own needs and pushes for an outcome that isn’t genuine or mutual.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my worth if I feel the need to convince someone to want what I want too?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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