Is Your Partner Just Playing Church? Understanding Mixed Signals
The Situation
"She wants a church wedding but never attends services"
The Brutal Truth
She craves a traditional wedding image but doesn't genuinely value the faith or community behind it. This inconsistency suggests a desire for the appearance of commitment without the substance—red flag alert!
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might pressure her into 'proving' her commitment through excessive discussions or ultimatums, missing the point that true intentions matter more than empty promises. This approach can undermine her self-worth and lead to unhealthy dynamics.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does wanting a wedding at a church symbolize for me, and am I willing to align my relationship choices with my true values?
✨ What To Do Next
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