Always Putting in Effort in Dating? Here's What It Means
The Situation
"I feel like I'm always the one putting in effort"
The Brutal Truth
His lack of effort shows that he may not value the relationship or your needs, opting instead to keep things casual. You're stuck in a dynamic that reinforces that you're not a priority, and that's not love.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might double down on their efforts, trying even harder to win his attention, thinking, 'If I just do more, he'll appreciate me.' This is toxic because it neglects your own worth and needs.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it say about my self-worth if I'm continuously striving for someone's attention without receiving reciprocity?
✨ What To Do Next
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