Dating Red Flag: Partner Hides Kids Until Serious Commitment
The Situation
"He has kids but never mentioned them until we were serious"
The Brutal Truth
He’s concealing significant parts of his life until the relationship deepens. This signals evasiveness and a lack of transparency, raising questions about his integrity and emotional availability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to overanalyze his motives and reassure themselves that his late disclosure means he really cares. This is misguided; it’s crucial to recognize that transparency is non-negotiable in a healthy relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What are my non-negotiables when it comes to honesty in relationships, and how do I communicate these?
✨ What To Do Next
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