Dating Red Flag: Sharing a Bank Account with an Ex
The Situation
"He still shares a bank account with his ex and says it's complicated"
The Brutal Truth
His "complicated" situation means he's emotionally tethered to his ex and isn't ready to prioritize you. This is a huge red flag for commitment. If he really cared, he'd have sorted this out already.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince themselves that this is normal and acceptable behavior, justifying it with thoughts like, 'It'll get better' or 'I'll just be patient.' This is wrong because it allows their self-worth to be compromised.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me feels I should be okay with his unresolved ties?
✨ What To Do Next
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