Is Dating Someone Who Uses Drugs a Red Flag?
The Situation
"He uses drugs and says it's not a big deal"
The Brutal Truth
His drug use is a clear sign he’s prioritizing escapism over responsibility. Dismissing it as 'not a big deal' shows a lack of awareness about the potential harm it can cause, indicating he may not be ready for a healthy relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might convince themselves they can change him or that they should tolerate his behavior to keep him around. This belief is toxic and undermines self-worth. It sets a dangerous precedent for what is acceptable in their relationships.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What past experiences have pushed me to accept behavior that undermines my well-being, and how can I honor my self-worth moving forward?
✨ What To Do Next
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