Why Dating Someone Who Won't Commit is a Red Flag
The Situation
"She wants me to act like her boyfriend but won't make it official"
The Brutal Truth
He’s enjoying the perks of a relationship without any commitment. He wants you to act like his girlfriend while keeping his options open, which shows he's emotionally unavailable or afraid of commitment.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase after him, trying to prove their worth or manipulate circumstances to make him commit. This behavior is damaging because it often leads to further rejection or disappointment.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would my ideal relationship look like and what am I willing to accept or deny to create it?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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