Should You Define the Relationship After Just Three Dates?
The Situation
"She wants to define the relationship after three dates"
The Brutal Truth
She’s asking for clarity and commitment because she senses your hesitation. If you're not willing to meet her needs, it signals you might not be serious about this connection. Three dates are enough to show interest, but you can't keep her longing for more.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start over-analyzing every detail or push for a rushed commitment, fearing rejection. This is wrong because it often leads to pressure and does not create a healthy foundation based on genuine feelings and compatibility.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only pursue connections that prioritize clear communication and mutual interest?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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