What It Means When They Refuse to Define the Relationship
The Situation
"She refuses to define the relationship until we live together"
The Brutal Truth
She’s using cohabitation as a bargaining chip to avoid commitment. This is a tactic to keep you in limbo, rather than addressing the real issues. It indicates insecurity and avoidance of vulnerability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to convince her to commit by offering ultimatums or displaying anxious behaviors, which only pushes her further away. This approach misunderstands that her unwillingness to define the relationship stems from her own issues.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to date someone who is ready to communicate their intentions without conditions?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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