Understanding Gaslighting: When a Partner Downplays Health Issues
The Situation
"He downplays my autoimmune flare-ups"
The Brutal Truth
He’s minimizing your pain and invalidating your struggles. This behavior shows a lack of empathy and respect for your wellbeing, indicating he may be emotionally unavailable and unwilling to support you when you need it most.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
You might start seeking constant reassurance or trying to convince him that your struggles are valid. This is wrong because it puts your self-worth in someone else’s hands and dismisses your own reality.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How would you feel if your partner fully understood and supported your health struggles every step of the way?
✨ What To Do Next
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