Why You're the Disciplinary Bad Guy in Your Relationship
The Situation
"He uses me as the disciplinary bad guy"
The Brutal Truth
He’s putting you in the role of the enforcer because it shifts the responsibility of accountability onto you. This is manipulative and shows he lacks emotional maturity. You’re being used as a tool to avoid conflict while he escapes real engagement.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-explain their feelings or chase him for reassurance, believing that if they just communicate harder, he'll change. This is misguided; real change must come from him, not from your validation.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you feels responsible for managing his emotions or actions instead of focusing on your own needs?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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