Why Calling Someone Lazy for Chronic Pain is a Major Red Flag
The Situation
"She calls me lazy when I need to manage my chronic pain"
The Brutal Truth
She’s minimizing your chronic pain and calling you lazy to manipulate and control the narrative around you. It’s a sign of emotional unavailability and lack of empathy. This is toxic behavior that disregards your well-being and needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might feel compelled to constantly defend themselves or over-explain their situation, fearing rejection. This is wrong because it allows their partner's toxic behavior to dictate their self-worth and leads to unhealthy dynamics where they feel they need to prove themselves.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to protect my well-being and self-worth in relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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