Understanding Guilt in Boundaries: Red Flags in Dating
The Situation
"She makes me feel guilty for having boundaries"
The Brutal Truth
His behavior shows a refusal to respect your boundaries. Trying to make you feel guilty for asserting your needs is a manipulation tactic, designed to control you while minimizing your feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to appease her by lowering their boundaries, thinking it will resolve the conflict. This is the wrong move because it undermines their self-worth and sends the message that boundaries are negotiable, which they should never be.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes that pleasing others is more important than honoring my own needs?
✨ What To Do Next
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