Understanding Emotional Unavailability: He Doesn't Know How to Help
The Situation
"He said he doesn't know how to help so he doesn't try"
The Brutal Truth
He’s admitting he’s emotionally unavailable and prefers to stay uninvolved rather than face his shortcomings. This shows a blatant lack of commitment and empathy. It’s not your job to fix his insecurities or teach him how to care.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze his words and convince themselves to 'fix' the relationship by sacrificing their needs. This mindset perpetuates unhealthy patterns and can lead to more pain. Remember, it’s not your responsibility to teach someone how to love you.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me is drawing in emotionally unavailable partners, and how can I shift this pattern?
✨ What To Do Next
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