What To Do When Your Ex Wants To Stay Friends After A Breakup
The Situation
"She broke up with me but wants to stay friends"
The Brutal Truth
She's not ready to let go of you but doesn't want a romantic relationship. This is a classic move to keep you close while she explores other options. It's selfish and shows a lack of respect for your healing process.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might jump at the chance to stay friends, fearing that losing all contact will mean losing all hope for reconciliation. This is the wrong move – it keeps you tethered to someone who doesn't value the relationship in the same way.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to prioritize friendships that uplift you rather than holding on to a connection that drags you down?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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