Feeling Like a Pen Pal: Signs of Emotional Unavailability
The Situation
"He travels for work constantly and I feel like a pen pal"
The Brutal Truth
His constant travel means he’s prioritizing work over building a real connection with you. You're more of a temporary distraction than a partner. Time apart shows he likely does not want to commit to you or create a meaningful relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to over-communicate or make excuses for his behavior, thinking they can 'win him over' with enough attention or persistence. This compounds their feelings of insecurity and keeps them trapped in a cycle of chasing someone who isn’t fully present.
💭 Something to Reflect On
If you could envision your ideal relationship, what specific qualities would your partner possess to ensure you feel valued and prioritized?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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