Why Fighting via Text Essays is a Major Red Flag in Dating
The Situation
"He only wants to fight via text essays"
The Brutal Truth
He’s avoiding real confrontation and accountability, using text essays to manipulate and prolong the conflict. This behavior shows he’s emotionally unavailable and lacks the maturity to handle disagreements face-to-face, keeping you stuck in a cycle of frustration.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze every text, feeling the need to appease him to avoid conflict. This is harmful because it leads to self-doubt and reinforces unhealthy dynamics instead of promoting healthy communication and self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me feels it's acceptable to engage in conflict only through text, and what does that say about my boundaries?
✨ What To Do Next
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