Understanding Ghosting and Breadcrumbing in Dating
The Situation
"He reaches out when I stop responding then disappears again"
The Brutal Truth
He’s not genuinely interested in you; he’s just seeking validation when you withdraw. His behavior shows a lack of commitment and emotional availability. He wants to keep you on the hook without investing real effort or care.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might reach out again or chase after him, thinking that their attention will change his behavior. This often leads to more disappointment and reinforces the unhealthy dynamic.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What does it mean to you when someone disappears and reappears on their terms?
✨ What To Do Next
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