How to Handle a Partner Who Won't Support Your Boundaries
The Situation
"She refuses to back me up when I set consequences"
The Brutal Truth
This indicates she's either unaware of how to set boundaries herself or she's unwilling to support yours. It's a sign of either emotional unavailability or a lack of respect for your needs, both are toxic in a relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may try to over-explain or justify their boundaries, hoping this will persuade her to change her mind. This is wrong because it undermines your needs and can lead to more frustration and resentment.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to prioritize your needs in a relationship without seeking approval from your partner?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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