Why He Keeps Tabs on You but Won't Commit: Understanding the Signs
The Situation
"He keeps tabs on me but won't commit"
The Brutal Truth
He enjoys the thrill of your attention without any intention of deepening the relationship. He’s keeping you on a string while playing it safe, afraid of commitment and true emotional investment.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might double down on seeking validation, texting him more frequently or trying to appease him to get commitment. This is wrong because it reinforces the unhealthy dynamic and diminishes their self-worth.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes that I need to settle for this kind of attention when I deserve someone who fully commits?
✨ What To Do Next
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