What It Means When He Makes You Feel Crazy for Being Upset
The Situation
"He makes me feel crazy for being upset"
The Brutal Truth
He’s manipulating your emotions to avoid responsibility; his goal is to keep you insecure and questioning yourself. This isn't love—it's control. You deserve someone who sees your feelings and validates them, not someone who invalidates your reality to dodge accountability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to over-explain or apologize for their feelings, thinking that if they just explain better, he may understand and change. This is misguided—his behavior shows he’s unwilling to engage in healthy communication; your feelings are valid, and you don’t need to justify them.
💭 Something to Reflect On
If a close friend described this situation to you, what would you advise her to do?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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