Why Saying He Sees a Future with You But Won't Commit Is Toxic
The Situation
"He sees a future with me but won't take steps toward it"
The Brutal Truth
He might be saying he sees a future with you to keep you interested, but he's making no real effort because he's either emotionally unavailable or scared of commitment. This is a classic case of unfairly stringing you along.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to win him over by showing more affection or playing into his fantasies about the future, hoping that will prompt him to commit. This is wrong because it compromises your self-worth and sets a precedent for unhealthy dependency.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only invest in someone who actively works towards a future together?
✨ What To Do Next
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