What to Do When He Shuts Down During Serious Conversations
The Situation
"He shuts down every time I try to have a serious conversation"
The Brutal Truth
His shut-down is a clear signal of emotional unavailability and avoidance. He’s not ready or willing to engage on a deeper level, keeping you from meaningful connection. It's about his fear, not your worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase after him, seek reassurance, or try to force the conversation, believing that if they just approach it the right way, he’ll open up. This tactic only reinforces his avoidance and neglects your need for honest dialogue.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me fears having tough conversations, and how does this impact my relationships?
✨ What To Do Next
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