His Mixed Signals: No Summer Plans but Wants Company in January
The Situation
"He refuses to make summer plans but wants company in January"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to keep you around for emotional support but isn’t ready to invest in a real relationship or future. His refusal to make plans indicates a lack of commitment and only wanting you when convenient for him.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may chase after him, trying to convince him to commit or figure out what’s wrong. This is misguided; it reinforces his lack of effort and shows you’re willing to settle for crumbs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do you need to establish to protect your emotional availability?
✨ What To Do Next
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