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Understanding Hot and Cold Behavior in Dating: What It Means

🚩Yellow FlagToxicity Score: 6/10
#mixed-signals#commitment-issues#emotional-unavailability#red-flags

The Situation

"She hot and cold constantly and I never know where I stand"

The Brutal Truth

Her inconsistent behavior shows she’s unsure or unwilling to commit. This back-and-forth game is not about you but her emotional struggles, leading to frustration and confusion. You deserve someone who offers clarity and consistency, not mixed signals.

❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)

An anxious person may cling tighter, seeking reassurance and trying to decipher her mood swings. This approach only fuels their own uncertainty and anxiety, failing to establish healthy boundaries or encourage self-worth.

💭 Something to Reflect On

What would it feel like to prioritize stability and consistency in your relationships?

✨ What To Do Next

Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.

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