Ignoring Boundaries: When Your Partner Makes Decisions Alone
The Situation
"She chooses vendors without consulting me"
The Brutal Truth
She’s dismissing your input and making unilateral decisions, showing a lack of respect for your opinions. This is a power move, indicating she doesn’t prioritize mutual agreement. If she can't consult you on choices, is she really invested in the partnership?
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to over-explain their feelings to her or seek constant reassurance, fearing rejection. This is wrong because it perpetuates a cycle of insecurity and doesn't challenge the harmful dynamics in the relationship.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it look like to be in a partnership where your voice and preferences are genuinely valued?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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