Insecure Partners Taking Out Their Feelings on You: What to Do
The Situation
"He's insecure and takes it out on me"
The Brutal Truth
He's projecting his own insecurities onto you, creating conflict to feel better about himself. This is a sign of emotional immaturity and is not your fault. His behavior reflects his struggle, not your worth.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try to soothe his insecurities by becoming overly accommodating or seeking constant reassurance from him. This is toxic, as it ignores their own needs and worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What pattern do you notice in your relationships when faced with someone else's insecurities, and how do you prioritize your emotional health in those situations?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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