When Her Insecurities Become Your Problem: Dating Red Flags
The Situation
"She's insecure and takes it out on me"
The Brutal Truth
His comment reveals a lack of empathy and accountability. Instead of addressing her insecurities maturely, he shifts blame, making her issues his burden. This is manipulative, unhealthy behavior that protects his ego while neglecting her feelings and needs.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-analyze everything she says, trying to soothe him and reassure herself. This is wrong because it gives away her power and perpetuates the cycle of insecurity instead of confronting the real problem.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do you need to set to protect your emotional well-being while dating?
✨ What To Do Next
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