Why Intense Dating Turns Cold: Understanding Mixed Signals
The Situation
"He's extremely intense then goes cold out of nowhere"
The Brutal Truth
His intensity masks emotional unavailability; he thrives on attention but can't handle vulnerability. When he goes cold, it's not about you—it's a self-protective tactic that leaves you confused. It’s a red flag pointing to commitment issues and emotional manipulation.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze every interaction, desperately trying to win back his attention or questioning their worth based on his fluctuating behavior. This is toxic because it puts their self-esteem in his hands instead of valuing their own needs and boundaries.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of my past relationships has taught me that intense attention is preferable to consistent love?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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