Dating Confusion: Jealous but Not Wanting a Relationship
The Situation
"He said he doesn't want a relationship but gets jealous"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to keep you close enough to feel secure and jealous, but won't commit. This is a classic manipulation tactic that keeps you invested without giving you what you need. His jealousy is about control, not care.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling tighter or try to convince him to change his mind, mistakenly believing they can earn his commitment through validation. This only fuels the toxic dynamic and confirms their own insecurities.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does it say about your self-worth if you tolerate jealousy from someone who doesn't want a real relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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