Why Jealousy After a Breakup Signals Manipulation
The Situation
"He broke up with me but gets jealous when I talk to other guys"
The Brutal Truth
He wants to control your feelings while still wanting to keep you at arm's length. His jealousy is less about caring for you and more about wanting to feel validated and possessive without commitment.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start trying to reassure him or seek his approval, believing their worth is tied to keeping him interested. This is toxic because it sacrifices their self-respect for someone who has chosen to walk away.
💭 Something to Reflect On
If you had complete confidence in your value, how would you respond to someone who wants to have control without commitment?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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