Why Jealousy After Saying 'Let's Just Be Friends' is a Red Flag
The Situation
"He said he wants to stay friends but gets jealous when I date"
The Brutal Truth
He doesn't truly respect your boundaries. His jealousy reveals possessiveness—he wants control over who you date while pretending to support your independence. It’s a manipulation strategy to keep you emotionally tied, even if he's claiming friendship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might repeatedly seek reassurance, questioning him about his feelings and commitment. This reinforces his power over you and neglects your own needs.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How would your relationships shift if you only accepted friends who genuinely support your happiness without jealousy?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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