Understanding the Red Flag: Job Judgment in Dating
The Situation
"She said my job isn't impressive enough"
The Brutal Truth
She's projecting her insecurity by belittling your job to feel superior. This reveals her need for external validation and a shallow understanding of worth, not only in work but in relationships. It showcases her toxic behavior towards what truly matters.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may overexplain or justify their worth, trying to prove themselves, which only reinforces that they need external validation. This is wrong because it leads to a cycle of seeking approval, rather than recognizing and valuing their inherent worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What in my past has led me to accept others' judgments about my worth?
✨ What To Do Next
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