When Kids are an Excuse: Recognizing Commitment Issues
The Situation
"He says his kids come first but uses that to avoid commitment"
The Brutal Truth
His kids aren't the real issue; it's his fear of commitment. He's using them as a shield to keep you at arm's length while avoiding any serious relationship responsibilities. You've got to see through this dodge and not accept being on the sidelines.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might try harder to prove their value or get him to change by doing more for him. This is the wrong approach because it reinforces his evasive behavior and diminishes your self-worth. You shouldn't have to earn someone's love and attention.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What part of me believes I should accept someone who isn't fully committed?
✨ What To Do Next
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