Understanding Last-Minute Cancellations in Dating: Anxiety or Avoidance?
The Situation
"She cancels flights last second and blames anxiety"
The Brutal Truth
She's using anxiety as a cover for lack of commitment. Blaming anxiety is a way to avoid responsibility and the discomfort of honest communication. Her behavior shows she’s not ready to prioritize a healthy relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might over-apologize or try to reassure them without addressing their own feelings, which only reinforces their partner's avoidance and lacks healthy boundaries.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How often do you excuse someone's behavior because of their anxiety, rather than examining your own feelings and needs?
✨ What To Do Next
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