Why Someone Who Shows You Attention Then Pulls Away Is Problematic
The Situation
"He showers me with gifts and attention then suddenly pulls away"
The Brutal Truth
He’s love-bombing you for attention and validation, then withdrawing to keep you on edge. This cycle is a manipulation tactic to secure his control and emotional distance. It’s not about you; it’s his inability to commit.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person may overanalyze every interaction, constantly seeking reassurance and attempting to 'win' his attention back. This is wrong because it places your worth in his hands, perpetuating unhealthy dependency.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of me craves inconsistent love, and how does it distract me from my self-worth?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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