Understanding Mixed Signals: Wanting Casual but Upset Over Dating Others
The Situation
"She said she doesn't want anything serious but gets upset when I date others"
The Brutal Truth
She claims she wants a casual relationship but feels possessive and upset when you see other people. This reveals confusion about her own feelings, possibly rooted in fear of commitment or insecurity. It’s selfish and unfair to you.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overthink their own worthiness and start to doubt themselves, trying to convince her to change her mind, often leading to more heartache and confusion. This behavior ignores the clear signals she's sending—the more you chase uncertain affection, the more you devalue yourself.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What part of you believes it's acceptable to feel upset over someone else's choices while holding back your own feelings of commitment?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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