Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Why Communication Matters
The Situation
"She won't tell me what's wrong but gets upset that I don't know"
The Brutal Truth
She's upset because you're not reading her mind. This shows emotional unavailability on her part—expecting you to guess without communication creates confusion and insecurity. Healthy relationships require openness, not silent expectations.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might keep probing for answers, trying to guess what's wrong or over-apologizing to placate her. This is wrong because it reinforces her lack of communication, leading you to feel insecure and unworthy. You deserve clarity, not mind games.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only date someone who openly expresses their feelings and needs?
✨ What To Do Next
Every situation has nuance. What you see here is a general pattern, but your specific circumstances matter.
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