Understanding the Dangers of Mixed Signals in Dating
The Situation
"He treats me like a girlfriend in private but ignores me in public"
The Brutal Truth
He wants the benefits of a relationship without any accountability or commitment. Treating you well in private is a tactic to keep you around while his public indifference shows he doesn't want others to know about you. It's a classic case of emotional unavailability.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might cling harder, trying to prove their worth in hopes of changing his behavior. This is a mistake because it only reinforces his mixed signals and deepens your anxiety, making you lose touch with your self-worth.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What would you choose if you truly believed you deserve to be a priority rather than an option?
✨ What To Do Next
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