Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Why Intentions Matter
The Situation
"She wants to design the ring herself but never books appointments"
The Brutal Truth
She’s expressing a desire for engagement but isn’t taking steps to make it happen. This indicates ambivalence or lack of commitment. It’s her way of keeping options open without fully engaging, leaving you in a state of confusion.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might start chasing her for clarity, constantly asking about her plans and trying to manipulate situations to get a commitment. This is wrong because it creates pressure and desperation, further pushing her away instead of fostering healthy communication.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How can I set clear boundaries for myself regarding my needs in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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