Understanding Mixed Signals: Dating Someone Who Only Invites You When They Need a Date
The Situation
"She only invites me to family events if she needs a date"
The Brutal Truth
She’s using you as a backup for her family events, not genuinely interested in a relationship. This reflects her emotional unavailability and lack of commitment. You're an option, not a priority, and that's not healthy.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overanalyze her motives, desperately seek her approval, or flood her with messages to try and secure a more consistent relationship. This approach only reinforces their feelings of inadequacy. Instead, focus on what you deserve: a partner who values you consistently.
💭 Something to Reflect On
What would it feel like to only date someone who views you as a priority rather than an option?
✨ What To Do Next
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