Understanding Mixed Signals: When Differences Matter
The Situation
"He said our differences don't matter but they clearly do"
The Brutal Truth
He’s downplaying your differences to avoid accountability. He knows they impact the relationship but is unwilling to address them, likely to keep you hooked without effort.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might overcommit and ignore their needs, convincing themselves that making sacrifices will help him realize how much they care. This is wrong because it leads to resentment and loss of self-respect.
💭 Something to Reflect On
How would my relationship change if I prioritized my needs and sought someone who celebrates our differences?
✨ What To Do Next
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