Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: When 'Slow' Means 'Fast'
The Situation
"She said she wants to take things slow but moves really fast physically"
The Brutal Truth
Her saying she wants to take things slow while moving fast physically reveals inconsistency. It indicates she might be afraid of emotional intimacy but seeks physical connection, which can signal manipulation or confusion about her own feelings.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might rush to validate her feelings, compromising their own boundaries to keep her close. This is harmful because it leads to losing their own self-worth and needs for the sake of maintaining the relationship.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What boundaries do I need to establish to ensure my emotional needs are met in a relationship?
✨ What To Do Next
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