Understanding Mixed Signals in Dating: Social Media vs. Reality
The Situation
"She said social media doesn't matter but posts everything"
The Brutal Truth
Her words say social media doesn't matter, but her actions scream the opposite. She's likely seeking validation and approval, showing a disconnect between what she claims and how she behaves, which can create confusion and mistrust in the relationship.
❌ What NOT to Do (Anxious Response)
An anxious person might chase after her for reassurance, trying to get her to explain her contradictory behavior, which often leads to frustration and deepens the insecurity instead of establishing healthy boundaries.
đź’ Something to Reflect On
What does this mixed signal reveal about my own boundaries, and am I willing to accept someone who can’t align their words with their actions?
✨ What To Do Next
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